As I look around the world today I see a lot of very courageous leaders. They have the courage of their convictions. They have the courage to stand their ground in support of their positions, even in the face of great resistance. They have the courage to take enormous risks, with truly global ramifications, on behalf of their beliefs. Yes, it takes an enormous amount of courage to do these sorts of things, but I would argue it is actually a weaker version of courage…a false courage.
Today, more than any other time in my life, I am witnessing leaders who strive to act “courageously” by exhibiting firmness, resolve, and near total inflexibility in their unrelenting drive to establish their cause, their opinion and their agenda… as the right agenda. Frankly, it actually takes very little courage to say: “I am right and you are wrong.” It gives people a strong sense of comfort to know with certainty that their point of view is correct, and that anyone who does not agree with them is in error. But the stark truth is that it does not take courage to refuse to yield your point of view in the face of massive opposition… it takes the greatest courage to admit that you might be wrong.
Although I am a great fan of heroic courage and know that in many situations that is exactly what is called for, what I believe we need from our leaders right now is the ability to show an even more powerful level of courage… the courage of vulnerability. The courage to say, “I don’t know,” or “I need help“ or even “You may be right, I might have made a bad assumption and be wrong about this.”
All of us have been in that situation where we have vehemently insisted that we were absolutely right, only to realize about halfway through the argument that we were probably – or even definitely – wrong. But what you do? Do you throw up your hands and immediately admit that you were completely off-base, mistaken, misinformed…wrong? Hell no, you dig in your heals and fight five times harder to prove beyond a shadow of ANY doubt that you are unequivocally right!!! (Even though you know you’re wrong).
Well, I think we have an awful lot of that going on in our country right now (and the rest of the world too). In the political system, the financial system, the education system, the health care system…let’s face it, there are a multitude of things that are very broken right now and there is absolutely no arguing about that! However, it seems to me that a lot of people, some very influential and important people, have staked out positions that are verging on completely irrational and yet refuse to show any “weakness” (or vulnerability) in admitting that they might be even slightly mistaken.
What I am suggesting in this post is that our Nation’s leaders (all leaders) need to show more of the incredibly challenging “courage” of expressing real vulnerability. Admit when you don’t know the answer and ask for help. Admit that you’re not Superman or Superwoman and you can’t do it all. Admit that you are confused, in over your head, overwhelmed or that you might even be… wrong. Admit that the most important thing right now is to think long-term, work together and fix things – not to be “courageous” in the defense of your position and proving that you are “right”. Throw the positions out the window and work for progress. Dump the false pride and get to work on solutions. Our nation needs some real leadership right now, some truly courageous leadership, courageous enough to put aside petty fighting, political posturing, rigid ideology and finger-pointing…and tackle some of the biggest problems our country has ever faced.
***Oh, by the way, I would like to state clearly for the record: I do not have the solution to these problems! I don’t know what to do to fix them! I am very, very, very confused!!! I need a lot of help – we all do – we all need as much help as we can give each other and we can get from each other. Things are tough right now – we could all use a few more friends and supporters. I have no idea how to get us out of this mess – but I absolutely want to do everything I humanly can to be a part of the solution – and I hope you do too!!
As always, I very much look forward to your feedback, comments and questions. Thank you so much – John Spence
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